I Miss What I Had in Love

There are times when people get into relationships and do not fully appreciate what they had at the time. Let’s look at Joanna and what she is facing in her current relationship.

Joanna Asks Nancy:

“I left my boyfriend for someone else I thought I loved. I told my ex to stay away from me but now I miss him.

Is it normal?

I’m okay in my new relationship but I feel that he won’t do as much for me as my ex would. I love my ex and I am feeling confused!”

Nancy’s Relationship Advice to Joanna:

Dear Joanna,

The underlying feeling I see in your situation is a fear of vulnerability. I believe you sabotaged your previous relationship because you started feeling out of control emotionally and did not know how to process those feelings of love towards your former boyfriend.

At the time you met your new boyfriend, I’m sure it seemed like he could offer you much more than you believed you were receiving in your former relationship. But as you have found out, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side and you did take what you had for granted.

One area I would advise you to look at is your attitude of “what’s in it for me” in regard to love and commitment. Successful relationships are about giving ... emotionally, spiritually, physically, mentally and of course, giving from a sincere and grateful heart.

Somewhere along the way in life you made a decision that you were going to hold back in love ... perhaps you were very hurt and adopted this current approach to love as a defense mechanism. Whatever happened to you in the past, it is vital that you work through these emotional barriers to love to you can achieve peace and happiness in a committed relationship.

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I Miss What I Had in Love

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