How to Date, Part 4

The last steps in my series, How to Date is based on biblical principles and ones that can easily be overlooked and rationalized away as not applicable to today’s dating.

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Maintaining Righteousness

It’s so easy to get caught up in the visual side of dating and be tempted to let go of your dedication towards living a righteous life. After all, society floods us with images and stories of top named individuals crossing that line. If you are not careful, the enemy can easily use your mind to convince you that it’s okay to let your emotions and feelings rule over your faith. Without a doubt, when you cross that line, you can easily fall into old relationship patterns and behaviors.

Our final step is a daily practice I encourage you to bring to the forefront of your mind. I believe human nature feels more secure with knowledge of future events and reaching for this feeling is the reason why many people try to micromanage the details of life. It’s also is a contributing factor as to why some people stay in relationships that are detrimental emotionally, spiritually and physically. Familiarity, even though destructive, can be “safer” than the vast unknown. And it is this factor that I encourage you to surrender and adopt this last component into your dating life.

The last step is:

Stay Present.

As we have discussed earlier, keeping the image of the type of relationship you ultimately want long term is part of this process of purposeful dating. But, if you get so far ahead mentally, you miss the gifts and experiences of each moment and each date. Your thoughts may be bombarding you with questions of your date’s long term potential which distracts you from the conversation at hand. So in essence, you really aren’t giving dating a chance because you are not all there in that moment. When you can vow that you will give each new person an opportunity to not only present their true selves in a safe environment, but also allow that person the wonderful gift of meeting the unique individual God made you to be, then you will find your life has become more enriched by that experience.

I sincerely hope that my steps to How to Date have blessed you and helped you clearly see how to embrace dating without rushing the process and trying to fulfill your will instead of God’s will. Many times we believe we are ready for the right person to walk into our lives, but God knows when we need a little more wisdom before that can happen. When you look at what you can learn about yourself from each dating experience, you will see the purpose of this journey towards true and lasting love.

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How to Date, Part 4