I'm Attracted to my Married Boss

After college, one of the most popular places to form relationships is the workplace, simply because it is easier to do so than to meet eligible people outside one's comfort zone. Sometimes these relationships work, but many go down a very familiar path leading to heartbreak and unfortunately loss of position when the relationship melts down.

No matter how attracted one is to another person, you can have control over your emotions and feelings.

Under no circumstance is it okay to pursue a married person, no matter what you believe you feel or think the other person feels. That person is off limits.

Read how Cindy is struggling with obsessive thoughts about her boss and Nancy's advice to her.

Cindy Asks Nancy for Relationship Advice:

I’m hugely attracted to my boss. For more than a year now, my feelings for him have grown. I’m not sure if he feels the same for me or not but I find myself thinking about him all the time. I’m losing sleep over him.

He is married with a family and about 4-5 years older. I tried to notice his body language and sometimes I think the feelings are mutual. My feelings for my boss are totally out of my control.

I’m really confused, obsessed and keep thinking about my boss all the time.

Nancy’s Relationship Advice:

Dear Cindy,

Any married man is not available to you.

It does not matter if that man finds you attractive, is attentive to you at work or friendly towards you. He is not single and that is the truth of the matter.

I understand how difficult it can be to find the right person, but to receive the blessing of love, you must first look in the correct places and open those doors. Trying to break down this door and potentially wrecking another person’s marriage is not morally right. Nothing good would come from pursuing and obsessing about a man who is already in a committed relationship and has a family.

When one is immersed in such a mindset, I like to pose the question, “What if you were his wife?” How would you feel if a woman from your husband’s office was scheming to become romantically involved with him? I guarantee you would not feel comfortable about it even if you had complete trust in your marriage.

Yes, you can fight your way into this person’s life and make a huge mess of your life, his life, and your career. Once the attraction is over in that scenario, you will be the one without a job, not your boss.

God does have the perfect man He selected especially for you. It is your duty to open more doors in your personal life so you can meet him and start on the road to creating the life you want to live with that special person.

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